COUPLE OF THE WEEK!!!!!

I am now starting something called "Couple of the week" which is recognizing those special couples who have been together for more than 3 months, and just stand out with the love they share for each other. This will take place every Monday. This weeks choice was extremely tough because there were so many happy couples to choose from and also this is the first couple, but i know i made the right choice. They met working at Mcdonalds in 2005, They started dating January 20th, 2006 and it's been 3 1/2 years now so a well and deserved Congradulations to Sidonia and Damen!!!

TLW-Interview:

1a. Whats the best thing about Damen?

Sidonia said: "The fact that he can make me laugh despite whats going on"

1b.Whats the best thing about Sidonia?

Damen said: "She has my back when it comes down to it, basically it's a fight, we fightin' together"

2a.What's the sweetest thing Damen ever did?

Sidonia said: "He surprised me with a diamond butterfly necklace on our fourth month anniversary."

2b.Whats the sweetest thing Sidonia ever did?

Damen said: "She took me to the Poconos for my birthday."

3a.What makes Damen so different from other guys?

Sidonia said: "He has my back even though I'm crazy!"

3b.What makes Sidonia so different from other girls?

Damen said: "She's mature, and she's well rounded, she's smart, her personality stands out, I can relate to her"

4a.What is yall's song?

Sidonia said: "Mary J. Blige-Be without you"

4b.What is yall's song?

Damen said: "Trey Songz-I don't wanna leave"

5a.What's your ringtone for Damen?

Sidonia said: "Usher-love you gently"

5b. What's your ringtone for Sidonia?

Damen said: "Jagged Edge-let's get married"

6a. What would Damen say your worst characteristic/habit is?

Sidonia said: "My jealousy"

6b. What would Sidonia say your worst characteristic/habit is?

Damen said: "I hold my true feelings like I bite the bullet alot when I should just talk."

7a. What would Damen say your best characteristic/habit is?

Sidonia said: "My booty, naw im playin', I really don't know"

7b.What would Sidonia say your best characteristic/habit is?

Damen said: "I look out for her, like whatever she need I try my hardest to get it"

8a. What is Damen's worst characteristic/habit?

Sidonia said: "He don't like to express his feelings"

8b. What is Sidonia'a worst characteristic/habit?

Damen said: "Her trust issues"

9a. What is Damen's best characteristic/habit?

Sidonia said: "His smile"

9b. What is Sidonia's best characteristic/habit?

Damen said: "Her personality"

10a. What is your first good memory with Damen?

Sidonia said: "On our first date we were walking to 42nd street, well i had on these new shoes and my feet were killing me but i didn't want to tell him. Well he noticed anyway and said lets take a cab"

10b. What is your first good memory with Sidonia?

Damen said: "When we was at fast meal, when we first went out to eat, I asked her could she cook and she said "Naw I can't cook" I respected that she was so honest so fast because most girls be like "hell yea I cook, I'm Betty Crocker!" I was just like wow she's really honest."

11a. Do you believe in love at first sight?

Sidonia said: "Yea I do"

11b. Do you believe in love at first sight?

Damen said: "I do but then I don't, it takes more than just looks to love someone, I believe you talk to someone, then you fall in love".

12a. Do you beleive in TLW?

Sidonia said: "Yes Brandy, I do".

12b. Do you beleive in TLW?

Damen said : "Yes I really do"

Missing Puzzle Piece

Okay so every one knows distance puts a STRONG damper on a relationship no matter the situation.....It's just human nature we need some sort of affection and attention when in a relationship or something like it. Too me long distance is if a person is more than 2 states away. I can deal with you being out of state cuz it's called "traveling" but if you are 2 states away or out of the country, Plus if you REALLY TRUELY LOVE someone you should deal with things in order to be with them, to me that's long distance. Distance also puts alot of unecessary problems and drama between two people. I've been dealing with a distance issue with Jarvis every since i met him so i'm pretty much use to it. It sucks f*ckin ass but i can deal with it. Him......not so much. But, I really understand why he feels the way he does. I think maybe i'm more comfortable with it because i have all my family here in VA and all of my friends except one (Kida!!!!) in VA too. Jarvis has friends and family here in VA too but he feels there is more for him in Texas. I really don't have a problem packing up and going to Texas, really I don't, it's just that before i leave i have things to handle in VA just to make sure there's no issue when I get to Texas. I know it's kinda irritating to him. It's irritating to me too, I miss him just as much as he misses me, if not more. But i know one thing Patience is something I have all day, he is very impatient. But arn't somethings REALLY worth waiting for?.....HELL YEA!!!!

Get It Together Grouch!!!

Lately, i've felt like this guy. Don't get me wrong i'm happy for my friends. My homie Doni is plannin to move in with her boo, My homie Trice is happy with her boo (my cuddin), My homie Tito is with her boo livin it up, My homie Breeze is workin it out with the BD, and my sister Kristen is FINALLY in a happy healthy relationship, not to mention my other sister Toni has been with her boyfriend for 5 years now. Trust me i'm really happy for everybody, really i am but sometimes there's this little voice in me that's just like "i really don't want to hear it, damn i'm lonely". 100% pure Grouch ain't it??? I know, maybe that happens to everyone at a point in time. I wish my boo could be here with me, but he's over 1,000 miles and a 24 hour drive away! I know what your
thinking....."DAYUUUM!!" Yea I know right. But you know what on a brighter note good things come to those who wait. And I really don't blame my homegirls how could I? I know when my boo is here I'm with him all the time, and when your happy like that you want to share your happiness with your friends. So I understand. I guess untill my boo comes back home or I go see him (*24 hour drive =( *) I'll just have to get it together Grouch!!!..........

The Cookie "Jar" Act II

Remember when you were little and Grandma or Mama would pull out the fresh cookies from the oven? The smell would just hit your nostrils and just warm your heart, mmm fresh sweet chocolate chips still nice and hot from the oven...mmm. remember seeing them cool on the table and begging and begging for one! "Ma puhleeeese one cookie???"....remember finally getting one, biting into it and chewing the sweet and warm goodness? Mmmm.......Now.....do you remember finishing that little cookie....and asking for another one? But Mama says no that's enough, no more?.....You went back when she wasn't looking....and you took that next cookie....didn't you?......................................That's what I find a certain someone doing now a days.

See when it comes to people sometimes they like to have one person but dibble and dabble into others. The way I feel is that You should venture and play the field for a while, because it helps you decipher what kind of characteristics you want in a life mate. But, If you are lucky to find that person meant for you and you know that person is meant for you then why feel the need to venture??? Why??? why waste your time with meaningless sex, and spending time with other people when your heart truly belongs to another person. It's not fair and in all actuallity it's selfish. I agree with looking and making sure what you have is what you want, but when does it become enough? When do you realize what you want already is right in front of you, you can't compare 5 pieces of silver to 1 piece of gold. When will you be done digging in the Cookie Jar?

***Love+Distance=Stress***

We all know what day is coming up soon, Yes in case you forgot Saturday is Valentines Day, My second favorite holiday, the first being christmas. Valentines day is either really exciting! or really depressing. Especially if your far from your siggie (significant other). Long distant relationships can be excruciatingly hard, trust me i know. When you want to hold them, you cant, when you want to just lay together and enjoy one another's company you cant, or even just talk together face to face because you've had a hard day you cant. I know for a fact, and from expirence just how hard it is, but there are ways to get around it, and get your concentration off of how much you miss each other. Talking daily on the phone is the most obvious thing to do when you miss your siggie, but if you talk to much you'll run out of things to say, your conversation will get foggy, and you will just be listning to each other breathe. Now unless your weird like me and you will stay on the phone even if no words are being said, u need to do something more. Think about sending your siggie a special gift from the heart, one to let them know there memory is still just as strong as if they were right next to you. Also, sometimes a good letter means alot, even if you speak on the phone there is nothing like a thoughtful letter from the heart. Now Valentines day for me, as much as i love it will be a sad one, the core of my heart is in Texas, so it's another lonely one for me, My plans are to sit at home, watch a charlie brown valentine, drink, and cry. I know it's depressing but i just dont want to go out with any one but my siggie. So for all of those lucky ones with your siggies enjoy your time and cherish every moment. Happy Valentines Day yall!

----*----Clogs---->

Okay so i've been meaning to speak on this subject for a while now and it's about time i do just that. Speak on it. Im sure we all (men and women) have come in contact with a "clog" at least once in our lives. What is a "clog" you ask? Well a "clog" ladies and gents is a simply put this way
Clog: (N) pronounced Klawg. A person who attempts to get in between a relationship between two who love and or like one another. One who is stoping or preventing movement. Now let me continue to explain. See recently a few of my homegirls have mentioned some occurences with a few "clogs". This is very very disturbing to me, also I myself have dealt with a "clog" for about 2 years now, yea 2 YEARS. A good example is this, see a few years ago i was completely in LOVE i mean i still love him to this day, and it just so happend that for military reasons he left the country, we were still together until a certain "clog" decided to weasle her way in while the relationship was on rocks. (Note: "Clogs" love rocky relationships, they can sniff them out)Now i know you are probably saying "it's not all the clog" or "it takes two to tango" but please let me inform you that no matter what "Clogs" are very persistant, "Clogs" could give a damn about your feelings, the only thing a "Clog" cares about is their own feelings and what they want. But, i digress on this one particular "Clog". So yes my boo was over there and during our rocky period "Clog" tries to "comfort" my boo. (Note: "Clogs" love to comfort, it makes them feel like there getting closer.) So me and my boo decided the distance and the fact that i miscarried his child were to much to handle at once so we broke up. Do yall know less than a month later he was dating this F-in "Clog"? Also i want to inform you that the "Clog" went as far as to call me and inform me that my boo would be "well taken care of, no need to cry, i know what your going through". That was 2 years ago, i wish i could tell yall the rest of the story but i really cant, but i really love my boo, he was and still is my heart, but everything happens for a reason, all part of TLW. As for my homegirl She met her boo around the same time i met mine and they have been on a off but trust they both know whats up, regardless of anyone else they know who comes first, well My homegirl is getting ready to go to NY to see her boo, but of course you know shit aint that easy, it's gotta be a "clog" tryna get in the way. This "clog" is being childish making myspace post and shit about how "she dont chase"...."she's a real female, she dont settle, happy birthday to her boo" who is really my homegirls boo. Typical "clog" material. See "clogs" love to advertise that their taking someone elses. My advice is this do not, i repeat do NOT allow a "clog" to take away your happiness! Follow your mutha fuckin heart and if your heart tells you who you need to be with to be happy then do what it takes to be with that person, especially if you were there first and you already know the "clog" has no comparrison! My words to those who are proclaimed "clogs" are, you know who was their before you and who will be their after you, you can be temporary but bitch i'm permanent..........TLW